I have just experienced the New Zealand Burlesque Festival 2018 both as a performer and as an audience member.
I knew I wouldn’t be disappointed and I Congratulate all – the organisers, the performers, the duchess, duke, king and queen. Of course there is the Golden Garters – congratulations to those nominated and the people awarded. You are all so deserving. The glitz, the glamour, the support, the adornment, the opulance, the faith, understanding and gloriousness the industry represents to me in one place. My “one stop shop”.
It was glorious. I felt on top of the world.
The Golden Garters were announced, and then it happened; no I didn’t get an award (I wasn’t nominated) but I did receive messages from valued performers. Messages of disappointment, messages of unworthiness, messages of why do I bother?
I can’t conceal the fact I have been there myself in the lifetime of my Burlesque career – the truth is we all feel this way at some point.
The secret to overcoming them inpart I find, is to recognise a few points.
Awards like the Golden Garters and the Grand Tease awards are subjective to the people who have voted – they do NOT represent the full opinion of all of the Burlesque community. Every Performer is fabulous, unique and rocking their sexy asses on the stage. Every Performer has someone who idolises them and their craft and everyone will have that person who says “what the fuck was that?”.
At competitions try to have a self care kit at hand. Something that makes you happy, something that helps you to focus and for God’s sake don’t compare yourself to others.
After the show watch your own video – view it as an audience member, and be fair to you.
Eat right; now this doesn’t mean eat wholesome food – eat right to suit your mood. If it is comfort food you crave – dam well have it AND without guilt. If you feel like eating the wholesome stuff do that!
Figure out your creature comforts. A favorite blanky wrapped around you with Netflix on demand surrounded by your fur babies (if you have some) will do wonders – AND do it without guilt.
Some people walk and exercise – but not me!! But if that is your creature comfort then go for it.
Take time out from Burlesque – rediscover time with friends, other hobbies, walk along the beach etc etc..
Finally, calm ya tits! What you feel is perfectly natural, go with it, ride the tide, and let yourself recover.
Credit to Constance Mayhem for her valued phrases in her workshop which I will treasure for Life,